Acceptance
So, after going through the process of knowing what you want, today’s post will focus on not judging yourself for the things you want. Whatever makes you happy, makes you happy and that’s okay. It is only your decision. Not everyone is going to end up with the same life purpose as Mother Teresa or Ghandi or Bill Gates for that matter.judg·ment also judge·ment(jjmnt)n.
1. The act or process of judging; the formation of an opinion after consideration or deliberation.
Except - most of the time the consideration or deliberation is absent, or, is just repeated from a past event (I am guilty of this… you probably are too). If someone seriously sat down and decided to judge something and took the time to deliberate all sides, there would probably be less problems in the world. We would grow traits such as tolerance and understanding. We would start to automatically think about all sides instead of focusing at first glance on OUR side. Our problem now is that we judge, ourselves and others around us, in a split second. Picture this: There is a couple walking down the street. She has a pink mohawk, a huge nose ring, spandex black pants and a tshirt vest combo on. He has on khaki pants and a polo shirt. They are holding hands, stopping every few yards for a quick peck. What are you thinking about these people? How do they not fit into the norms that you have created for yourself? How can your judgement of them be brought around to the way to judge yourself?
I used to get really pissed off at people driving too fast on the highway. I assumed that they were jerks, simply because of their speed. But think about this for a minute: You get a call at work - your kid just got sent to the hospital after splitting his head open at school. He is unconcious and they don’t know the extent of the damage yet. Do you go the speed limit on the highway? Suddenly, the safety of yourself and other driver’s goes out the window because you are totally focused on getting to the hospital to see your kid. Now, I am not saying that everyone that speeds on the highway has a good reason for it, I’m just saying that I don’t know what that reason is, and therefore, I cannot judge them. Ever since I made that decision, crazy drivers have been easier for me to handle. I still yell out the occassional “jerk!” but hey, I’m working on myself here too… 
So please, if you had a hard time getting through the exercises, if you stopped yourself halfway through because you were afraid to know the answers - stop judging yourself. You are just another human, we were all built for different things, we all fill our own individual purposes in this life. Your purpose is just as important as anyone elses.
Until next time…
September 01 2009 09:03 am | Articles