My Own Best Friend

Today, after an amazing day at the office followed by a great “Treasure Hunt” meeting with Ewa and our newest group I started thinking more about what it means to be good to yourself.  Ewa mentioned something during the meeting that caught my ear about having a goal to be her own best friend.

Wow.

What a concept!  This is something that I have heard Ewa say before, it just never hit me as hard as it did today.  We (women) spend a lot of time focusing on those inner voices that sometimes seem to take over everything that we do.  We repeat all sorts of thoughts that have been formed into beliefs like:

I am not good enough

This is hopeless

I’ll never make it

It won’t work

I can’t do that

Would your best friend say things like this to you?

Would you say things like this to your best friend?  “Yeah, bestie, you’re right - you are a hopeless case, it won’t ever work out, you should probably give up and then kick yourself for it for the next 40 years”.  NO WAY!  For your best friend, you offer a few things:

An open ear - You listen to her concerns

An open heart -  You have empathy for her problems

An open shoulder - It’s always ok for her to cry

Are you willing to offer yourself those same things?  Can you list out or discuss with yourself the concerns you may have about a decision you need to make or a step you need to take?  When you do this, can you accept concerns for what they are and not judge yourself for having them?  Can you allow yourself to feel your own emotions?  To let them grow so large, until they begin to shrink on their own?  Will you give yourself to permission to cry as you see fit?  In happy moments and in sad?

I think this is a beautiful goal for anyone to have.

My Goal is to be MY OWN BEST FRIEND.

xoxo

September 28 2009 11:05 pm | Articles

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